"Setting boundaries is an important act of self-care. Now is a good time to start practicing the art of saying "no" when you need to."
This week, looking through the lens of boundaries:
There are nationwide recommendations to stay home this Thanksgiving and celebrate with just your household members. We usually have a single friend over, but he recognizes the possible danger and will not be joining us for dinner. Our son is coming home from college, which means we will all have "asymptomatic carrier" worries about each other this week.
There are deadlines to meet this week--the buying and shipping of gifts, cleaning, and yes, lesson planning. I feel the need to take advantage of a week off of work to begin holiday preparations that are hard to do at the end of ten hour workdays. I love to bake, but it takes time and energy. I am doing my best to get a decent night's sleep as often as possible, for mental and physical health--and that takes time, too.
Of available space
Nothing like a week at home to make you take a hard look at piles of clutter. After trying several other decluttering methods, I am going to take the "one square foot" approach--just focus on one square foot at a time. The boundaries of available space is also affecting gift-buying decisions for both our home and our children. One is getting ready to move from Japan and doesn't want/ need anything more to pack, and the other is beginning to adopt a Marie Kondo sensibility. I love the idea of experiential gifts...but going back to boundaries of place due to COVID19...sigh.
Of physical health
I have hit my personal upper limit of weight, with boundaries imposed by clothes that don't fit and various other symptoms that I know are brought on by an unhealthy percentage of body fat. This boundary is hard to grapple with during this season of feasting. I need to use "no" more often it comes to placating myself with food, and view such as an act of self-care.
I read once or twice that self-care isn't necessarily bubble baths and chocolate bonbons, but rather doing those things that bring you health and peace of mind--like spending time with family, getting enough sleep and exercise and good-for-you food, cleaning your space to avoid a feeling of chaos in your home. I'll have to work on saying "no" to the things that get in the way of doing just that.